A woman who hosts a comedy podcast about motherhood emailed me last night saying that she was researching a show she was going to do about the “mommy wars” and read a post I wrote about SAHMs but just can’t figure out if I have kids or not. She said, “I am brain numb from the research, I am going to go nuts not knowing.”
I didn’t want to be like “Google me” because that’s kind of rude, but you know what’s ruder? Emailing someone with a question before you bother to Google them. I mean really. Nice job on the research, lady.

A woman who hosts a comedy podcast about motherhood emailed me last night saying that she was researching a show she was going to do about the “mommy wars” and read a post I wrote about SAHMs but just can’t figure out if I have kids or not. She said, “I am brain numb from the research, I am going to go nuts not knowing.”

I didn’t want to be like “Google me” because that’s kind of rude, but you know what’s ruder? Emailing someone with a question before you bother to Google them. I mean really. Nice job on the research, lady.

Kelly calls herself “a flaming liberal” and a feminist, too. “I want my daughter to be able to do anything she wants,” she says. “But I also want to say, ‘Have a career that you can walk away from at the drop of a hat.’ ”

— From the “Feminist Housewife” piece in New York.

1.) If you want your daughter to “do anything she wants” why do you need to qualify it with anything? Shouldn’t the statement just end there? Isn’t this whole piece about how you can be a housewife and a feminist because it was your choice? So do you want to stay home or not? Because when you add a caveat like that, it would appear that you don’t.

2.) This kind of bullshit is exactly what shapes the gender biases that we internalize when we’re little and holds us back when we’re grown.

3.) If you’re really a feminist, give the same career advice to your son.